Outside of the above, if you’re really interested in going out with a girl, just ask. Chances are, she’ll be relieved that you took the reins – especially if she’s been giving off the vibe that she’s as into you as you are into her. Whether you’re at a coffee shop or a hotel, people will be there to hear any cries of distress.
Again, there’s no hard and fast rule about where you might decide to crash for the night, although there are definitely some things to take into consideration. Play it safe when you decide the best place for you to spend time together. Don’t mention how much they broke your heart (or worse, how badly you broke their heart).
Another criticism is that because The Rules advise rarely returning phone calls and other such hard-to-get dating methods, some men may have trouble telling the difference between a woman who is genuinely not interested (or not interested anymore) and one who is genuinely interested, thus leading to misunderstandings and stalkers; not only for women using The Rules, but any man who believes all women are playing similar games even when they are not.
It’s an age-old question, and one that causes all of us anxiety at some point as we look at the bill sitting on the table and wonder if we should grab it … But offering is the right thing to do (and being prepared to follow up with you pay for your half, your beautiful illusion of a girl-in-shining-armor might be tarnished on the spot.
For instance, I was out with a woman once, and it came time to pay the check.
Lesbians all over the world struggle with the question of dating protocol every single day. How do you know who is supposed to wear the pants and pay for dinner? From the first date to a long term relationship, you have to figure things out how to make things work in your best interest. Even though there aren’t any cookie mold answers to all your questions about lesbian dating rules, there are certainly some good rules to live by. In general, if you’ve initiated the date, offer to pay for it. Sure, she might wave you off and insist on paying for her share.
The truth is, there’s no definitive answer about a lot of these things.